Words of Wisdom & Truth from Madame Áine and Michael Ravenwyck
Samuinn 2020November 7th 2020
I am a death doula. I was given that title by a beautiful Sister from Portland, Oregon after sharing my story with her about all the kitties we've rescued, re homed and helped cross over into the Hallows. We chose to allow the animals to leave on their own terms and time. We provide end of life comfort care to each fur ( or feathered, scaled, etc. ) children so they can leave their bio body suit when it is appropriate for them. We don't believe in kicking a soul out of it's home before it's ready to transition, doing that can cause it turmoil and confusion. Death is tough to begin with, letting go of a body is scary and souls need nurturing and preparation to journey into the Hallows. During Death Watch hours leading up to transition, we comfort each beautiful friend with stories, praise, apologies for mistakes we've made with them, songs of peace and love. We explain to them that their body is dying or it's no longer able to provide a suitable home for them and that they will have to let go and move onwards into the Veil of Spirit. We tell them how wonderful it's been to have them as a friend in this life, give them the honor and respect for sharing this life with us. It is bittersweet to have to share those years of memories and tell them that these moments will be our last memories shared. But this is as it should be done for anyone, plant, mineral, animal or human... it is the spiritual way of things. To love so deeply and unconditionally is to respect the life you are assisting without judgment or selfishness. We are like gatekeepers for those who need our guidance.
Now a note on euthanasia, we do not euthanize unless there is extreme pain or suffering that cannot be managed with at home hospice/palliative care. The Soul will leave when it's ready. We are not executioners.
It is very emotional work to be a Death Doula, to help birth a Soul from it's body and let Spirit guide it onwards... it crushes your heart and never gets easier no matter how many souls you comfort and assist... but they deserve nothing less than this kindness at such a moment in their lives. Someone is always there in life birthing even if it's just a mother... they deserve a friend to help ease the emotions, feelings and uncertainty of death.
Yesterday was one of those days here at Ravenwyck. Our beautiful elder kitty Merlyn of 16 years our friend made his transition back to Avalon. He was the last of a 6 kitten litter that came from a mom and dad rescued pair of kitties. They were the first stray rescues we took in after moving to Ravenwyck back in 2002. I was proud to have been his companion all these years and hope he will find us through the Veil when he feels the need to visit us. He loved to be vacuumed with the vacuum hose, would chase me down until I gently ran the hose up and down his belly, back and bushy tail. He was a hugger, a cuddly compassionate kitty that would clean the other fur children as if his own... always there to greet you with love. So giving that back to him yesterday was imperative, he passed peacefully as I held him to my heart and wished him safe journeys.
Rest well my beautiful Merlyn, until we meet again. I love you, forever.
Thank you for letting us share our Magic with you!